Definition of Appropriate – Suitable or proper in the circumstances
Marriage has many pains, but celibacy has no pleasures. - Samuel Jackson
Today, I received the phone call, that I knew would come. The guy, you know the one with the ring? Yeap, he called and said he was coming back by. Upon “racing” to see me, he got pulled over, but of course, he got out of it. It comes with the territory. No ring (again) of course. He was supposed to make it for lunch, but got there much too late for me to go to lunch with him. No loss there. No biggie except…
We are sitting there talking and he starts telling me about this girl he has been seeing. Of course, now I’m wondering, is this besides the wife? Some guys! What is the purpose of marriage if not to be with the one you marry? Obviously, she had to have meant something to you at one point in time for you to go through with the whole blasted thing! Right? Don’t get me wrong, I will enjoy the splendors that come with a married man trying to get from me, what he can’t have. So, he buys me lunch, so what? If not me, it’ll be someone else. Someone who won’t see the signs. Someone who won’t care that he’s married, if she does know. A female who will give him anything he wants because he thinks he is just that slick to get it and she’s just that dumb to give it.
Focus – he says. He’s got focus. Well, I have focus but I have more than that too. I have intuition. I knew, that day, when he showed up from out of nowhere. I knew it and I know it now. He’s up to no good. He’s not the first I’ve seen of this type of male. I’m sure he won’t be the last, unfortunately.
(Some)Ladies – I’m sorry to bust your bubble. But if your guy is going to school, going on vacations without you and “working” way too much, there is probably something not quite right. What can you do? I will tell you. Quit giving in to everything he wants! Make him earn it! Make him suffer! You have all the power in the world and if you choose to give it away, don’t blame Sancha, blame yourself. Make him rush home to see you because he doesn’t know how you have been because you have been busy doing things, other than trying to chase his ass down all day. Make yourself busy with projects, even if there is nothing. He doesn’t need to know that you are available nor does he need to know exactly how available you are. If you aren’t married to him, quit giving up the good to any of them. They don’t “need” it unless they have been clinically diagnosed. In that case, what are you doing?
I don’t now much, but I know that this guy, ring or not, is on the prowl. I’ll let him thing he has me in his sights before I prance away leaving no trail behind. That’s my appropriate.